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Technical Talk / Re: Smells Like Scam
« on: March 16, 2018, 12:07:13 pm »
Have you seen the James Veitch Ted Talk videos about scam email? I love them: https://www.ted.com/talks/james_veitch_this_is_what_happens_when_you_reply_to_spam_email/up-next
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General Discussion / Re: Judgmental
« on: March 16, 2018, 11:38:24 am »
I thinking of being judgmental and judging as 2 different things. Judgmental is when I hold something against someone or assuming tings about them. Judging is being realistic about a person.

For example: I am obese. A person who is judging me will recognize that I am obese and that there is something at the root of it, but accepts as God's child and supports me. Can see around my weight for my strengths. A judgmental person may treat me or think of me as stupid, lazy etc. Won't see my strengths and may not even think or want to look for them.
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Student walk-outs over school shooting in Florida: I marvel at their hypocrisy.

1) I canít help but wonder how few of the walk-out student protesters actually possess genuine feelings over gun control rather than just jumping on this walk-out band wagon because it gets them out of class for a few moments.

2) I canít help but wonder at the absence of student-led protests over the huge number of teen serious injury and deaths caused by students texting while driving, or teen serious injury and deaths caused by teen drunk drivers.

3) I canít help but wonder at the studentsí utterly inadequate understanding of mathematics, which lack of understanding prevents them from seeing just how incredibly small the odds are that they will be killed in a school shooting. (See point #2 above.)

4) If the students want to prove the depth of their genuine outrage, let them first burn all their first-person-shooter video games. Let them abstain from alcohol, a substance illegal to them in the first place. Let them stop being distracted drivers, again something that is illegal to them already. Maybe then I will believe that these walk-outs have genuine meaning to them. They protest and insist that the adults ďdo somethingĒ about a matter that is complex and beyond their control and and yet they wonít take the easy steps to safeguard their lives, steps that are well within their control.
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Mormon Life / Re: PRAYER LIST
« on: March 13, 2018, 10:58:03 pm »
Some of my husband's family were in the areas where rioting and vandalism happened. One of them had four gas bombs thrown at his house, but luckily (very very luckily), they didn't work and no damage happened as a result. Others had their houses stoned. But that's the worst of it for the relatives.

Things have calmed down, people have been arrested. Sadly, a lot of the people in the mobs were young - as in, 18-30. People on twitter talked about how the racists were all older people and the younger generation is better - I wouldn't say that is necessarily the case given who was actually destroying property.

Social media is still blocked and will be until at least Friday. Part of that is because facebook doesn't do much of anything to remove hate speech from their site. I've reported more than a few groups that, in English, called for death and destruction to specific groups in Sri Lanka. According to facebook, they aren't in violation of facebook's community standards. The hate speech groups in Sinhalese are even less likely to be removed because facebook doesn't have anyone or enough people who can read Sinhalese to deal with them. The government of Sri Lanka has set up a meeting with Facebook to discuss these things. I doubt that anything will change.

Germany and another country in Europe ( I don't recall right now which one) have laws that state that hate speech needs to be removed (from facebook as well as everywhere else) within a certain time frame. Facebook doesn't care about that, and Germany's a powerful country. Why would they care about what a country like Sri Lanka says?

The violence is over, theoretically, for now. But I doubt it's really over completely. The hate speech spreads lies and misinformation about minority groups, and until those lies and misinformation and hate speech are squashed, the hate and destruction will continue. Sri Lankans aren't great at reining in their emotions and destruction.
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What about the about half of the membership not living in English speaking countries? Do we need to teach them also English or will the language spoken in the country be enough?

( :P)
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General Discussion / Re: Question about your talents
« on: March 09, 2018, 10:56:06 pm »
I think we can sometimes be a hindrance or a limit on other people using their talents, especially if we are in a position of authority. For example: I might be the Sunday School president, and have an extremely talented and dedicated teacher, but I may limit that teacher by insisting on a certain lesson format or style of teaching. I think one of the most important responsibilities of leadership is to empower others to engage and develop their talents.
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General Discussion / Re: Question about your talents
« on: March 09, 2018, 09:55:42 pm »
I think what Dyany says is spot on. Recognizing that a talent (or strength) is a talent can be difficult. "Oh, no, I'm not talented. Drawing is easy." Well, no, drawing well isn't easy, it's just easy for YOU because you're good at it. And you've probably spent a lot of time honing that talent, possibly because someone, or a bunch of someones, along the way praised you for your drawing.

One of my superpowers is accounting. It's probably weird for people to think of accounting as a superpower, but hey, it is what it is. I'm really really really good at sorting out accounting messes, reconciling accounts, and figuring out what the real financial story is. I have always been able to balance accounts - corporate accounts involving hundreds of transactions in a month - to the penny. It's easier now as accounting programs have improved over the years, but I could do this back when it was me against the paper ledgers. And I took about 1/4 to 1/3 the time it took other people to do the same job.

It's based on other superpowers of mine - the ability to organize the heck out of things and a massive attention to detail combined with excellent math skills (not that accounting required higher level math at all). But I didn't really understand that my accounting ability was a superpower until the last few years. I mean, I knew I was good at it, but...

So it can take a long time for us to realize that we have superpowers. Sometimes, it takes other people pointing them out. Sometimes, it's about realizing that our superpowers might seem stupid or boring or commonplace or even "why would you ever think that was a superpower?", but it's a superpower nonetheless.
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General Discussion / Re: Judgmental
« on: February 25, 2018, 12:40:31 am »
I dunno, Kaz.  It seems to me that the word "judgmental" has become a term people use to dismiss a person with whom they don't agree.  Kinda like "intolerant." It doesn't seem to mean anything anymore. If someone said to me, "You're being judgmental," my reply would probably be, "So what."

I think the real concept of judgment is best described by Elder Oaks in the article Dyany provided.
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Doctrines & Scholarship / Re: The Flood
« on: February 19, 2018, 03:49:54 am »
Maybe the Flood was not ďliterallyĒ a baptism of the Earth, but many people look for symbolic meanings in scripture that they want to see, that perhaps make some scriptural passages more personal for them. Iíve been known to do that. It may not be a doctrinal truth that we teach that God baptized the Earth by water & will baptize it by fire after the Second Coming, in a likeness of how we are purified by water & the Spirit. But some people do believe that, or at least see symbolic connections, & is that necessarily a bad thing? I donít see it as a big issue that affects our eternal salvation, but I donít see any harm in it either if people are actually thinking enough about the scriptures to look for personal meaning in them.
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General Discussion / New Exhibit
« on: February 18, 2018, 08:45:55 pm »
I had a Sunday nap dream where I met my brother, Paul, on the BYU campus to see a new exhibition.

Paul: "This is going to be a really cool exhibit.  They went into all these urban neighborhoods and planted trees in honor of early golf players."

Me: "It wasn't for early golf players.  It was for early baseball players."

Paul: "Whatever.  It was about people hitting a ball with a stick.  And that's worth remembering."

I wish I could come up with stuff that clever when I'm actually awake...
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Forum and Member News / Baby Boy
« on: February 17, 2018, 06:01:59 pm »
We had a baby boy on Valentine's day. He came about 3 weeks early and was small (5 lbs) like his big sister (5 lbs 4 ounces). Because of flu restrictions, big sister (3 years old) hasn't seen him yet. He needed the UV lights overnight for a mildly elevated bilirubin and a warmer because he wasn't staying warm enough. It took him a few days to learn to nurse. But he should come home tomorrow. I have the house temperature turned up to 80 degrees.

We named him Merrick. My name begins with J, my wife's with K, our daughter's with L, so we kept the alphabet going and named him with an M. It was hard to pick a name for him. There are a few meanings for Merrick, but for Germanic, the Mer comes from fame, power, and strength, and Rick from Richard which means King or ruler.  Famous/Powerful/Strong King. He'll grow into it.
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Mormon Life / Re: The Tender Mercies/Answered Prayers Thread
« on: February 03, 2018, 09:53:12 am »
I'm glad you had a positive experience, Cook.

About your negative experience--I don't know why we do that to each other in our church callings.  Callings are volunteer positions.  It's one thing to accept suggestions from a leader about how to improve.  It's quite a different thing to hear someone complain and criticize, even when you're trying to serve them. I've become less tolerant with that kind of nonsense. "If you're going to complain about what I'm doing, then maybe you should volunteer..." I said that once when I taught early morning seminary.
 When they realized that getting up at 4:30 every morning to prepare lessons for their child is something they don't want to do themselves, they stopped complaining.
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Forum and Member News / Re: Happy birthday
« on: February 02, 2018, 10:41:54 pm »
LOL! Yes, it was my birthday, and yes, I was put in FB jail for thanking people for their birthday wishes. I'm out of it now. I was out of jail all of yesterday, too. Thank the lucky stars!

Thanks for the birthday wishes. :)
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Mormon Life / Re: The Tender Mercies/Answered Prayers Thread
« on: February 01, 2018, 04:53:47 pm »

This is possibly the last thread I would have thought to be posting on, as I have found it difficult to find specific answers to prayers. But something wonderful actually happened. First, some background. I am an anesthesiologist and work in a small mid-west town a few hours from my wife's parents. It is a difficult job, having to do 24 hour shifts every fifth day, becoming zombie like the day after, eating too much and not being able to exercise. I am often run ragged due to being paged to do multiple things at the same time. I think I have lost 10 years off of my life expectancy. I became president of the group 2 years ago. A constant problem has been retention and recruitment of enough MDs and CRNAs. I have been able to hire people, but have also lost people.

Our original plan was to work hard and stay here for 10 years, earning enough money that I could "retire" if I wanted to, but then I could find a job that I enjoyed more or work fewer hours and get my health back in order. However, this last summer my father had a stroke that is severely affecting him. He lives with my mom out on the west coast. My little sister lives near them, but they take care of her more than she can take care of them. Shortly after that we had a family reunion back home with them. My wife and I both thought it could be a good idea for us to move back to them and help out. I interviewed with 2 anesthesia groups, but didn't get any strong feeling that it was the right thing to do at the time. I thought my group had too much turmoil in it and I couldn't leave it. And my wife was pregnant and we would have to move in the winter or wait a bit and move about the time she was due. The winter is the busiest time of the year in surgery, as many people want to use up their deductibles, and we were short staffed, so it was again a difficult winter.

We successfully made it to the new year and I started contemplating moving back home, again. I finally came to the realization that I do not have an obligation to make my company perfect before I can leave. And the timing will be better. My wife is due in just 5 weeks, and moving a few months after that would give us more pleasant weather. We went to the temple to pray about it. My wife felt it was the right decision. I thought it was right, but didn't have a strong confirmation. But we decided we should move.

So, after that background, here is the tender mercy portion. The day after we committed to moving I received an email from another anesthesiologist stating that he would like to apply for a job with my group. He has family in the area, graduated a few years ago from a prestigious residency, and had been working in a very similar style practice, but in a practice that might not be stable financially long term in a location that he did not like. He came and interviewed later that week and has said he wants the job. I am just waiting on his references before I officially hire him. But for me, who has struggled finding enough staff, to have someone basically want the job the very next day after we committed to moving is an answer to my prayer. I do not too often ascribe things to divine intervention, but somehow he must have been inspired to look into my advertisement online.

This week I finished my application for a state medical license in my home state (that is a long process). I also need to contact one of those anesthesia groups to see if they still actually have a job available. But they, too, were short several people, so I think I should be safe. It is a significant pay cut, but we were frugal enough these first 5 years that we should have no problem with that. I will also be able to have a much more regular sleep cycle and should be able to improve my health. We are going to move in with my parents for a while, until we find a place of our own. I think my 3 year old is going to extend my dad's life by a couple of years, as she has so much cheer and joy and just adores her grandpa.
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Mormon Life / Re: The Salt Lake Tribune: "Mormon missionaries dying"
« on: February 01, 2018, 03:05:31 pm »
We called new missionaries "golden" and had "golden conference" when you became a trainer and picked up your new companion.

Trunky was a common expression. My dad said they used to say, "sitting on your trunks" in his day.

Denglisch was german/english combination.

I met my "grandson" when I returned 2 years later. I happened to find some missionaries and learned that the missionary I had trained had trained him.

Then we had the silly JW Knights (Jay-Dub), our mission's take on Jedi Knights. This was for missionaries that were very well versed in the scriptures so that they could meet with the Jehovah's Witnesses without getting overwhelmed with scriptures. Typically your trainer had to be one. I thought it was a little rude, so I didn't let my "grandson" know that he could have been one. Plus, that line of thinking typically led to arguments. I had many great interactions with Jehovah's Witnesses when we honestly tried to learn each other's point of view, rather than trying to convince them through brute force.
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